No Boys Allowed

Two of my favorite songs from Keri Hilson's new album No Boys Allowed

Toy Solider

Beautiful Mistake

The Breakfast Club one of the best movies ever.

Found this on someone's blog and I truly believe in what it says.

True Friends

From since I can remember I have always had a group of female friends 3 being the smallest and 5 being the highest. Throughout the friendships there was always at least two girls in the group that I knew had my back. Whenever something went wrong I could run to them and whenever I needed a true friend I could find it in them. Being in college you interact with a lot of people but very quickly you find out who is really in your corner. You find out the type of people you need in your life not saying people are more or less. But when you find that person that you click with, have the same ambitions, understand you better than you do at times you have found one of life's true treasures. I'm happy to say I have found two of life's treasures and I would do anything for my girls NaKee and Ja'Naye.

Lost but Found

I talked to one of my favorite girls today: my wife. No I'm not gay but she will be forever my better half. I came to her with some pressing issues about who I was becoming. Often when you get older you experience new things. You don't always make the right decisions but in each failure or success you are always left with a learning lesson. I noticed that I wasn't the same girl that came to college over a year ago and the change wasn't for the positive. I was becoming consumed with things that were irrelevant to my success. I was still holding on when others had already let go. I was praying for a happy ending when the happy ending should have been me and him splitting. I came to college with a mindset to succeed and find out who I was. Well I have never been a failure academically but it is very easy to get caught up. Sometimes its necessary for you to reevaluate and refocus on yourself for a while. In the process don't run away from you issues, approach each one with the mind set of being victorious. This is the first step to my "Finding Me" process.

Facebook/Twitter for the Ladies

It is so easy to discuss your feelings on social networks. Most of your friends follow you on twitter and are friends with you on facebook. When something goes wrong it is automatic for a female to want to post a status. But is there a limit to what you post? Everyday me and millions of others read statuses that we think are too much. Some people use social networks as diaries or venting machines. I have posted a few statuses that were about men or friends. It felt good to release some emotion and even better when people commented and understood my frustration. It isn’t always rational to post everything. For instance, I told my mister about his Christmas gift yesterday and he wasn’t hype to the level which I thought he should be. So instead of just letting it go, I posted a tweet about the issue and mentioned him as well. Some females would read this and ask where the problem is. But with matters of the heart it is best to only discuss them with your close friends. My mister was very mad and thought it was corny and immature. I thought about it and agreed. Facebook/Twitter shouldn’t be used to vent about your relationships or how some man has done you wrong. Although the facebook status ask “What are you thinking” the whole world doesn’t need to know. When us females post status about or relationships in a negative manor we only make the man mad and cause more problems. As you ladies WE must understand that everything doesn’t deserve a reaction. I know that it is hard because I’m still learning. Don’t give someone the benefit of knowing that they have made you so mad that you have to post it. Find another way to release your emotions without others knowing. For instance if you have a Blackberry or and smart phone there is a notepad. Instead of posting a status write how you feel and the good part is there is no character limit. This could be your diary, which only you know how you feel. We all say that we don’t want everyone to know all our business or we don’t want to give ourselves completely to a man but by posting statuses you are. Another thing that ladies do, we read to deep into statuses. I think social networks gives people the ability to be who they aren’t in real life. Many ladies that are in relationships clock their boyfriend’s statuses or tweets like an officer. I truly believe that if you’re a female that reads into everything or gets jealous quickly you need to unfollow your man and delete him as a friend. I say this because I have seen many relationships end because of social networks. A lot of times men write statuses that are lyrics to a song, a convo that they are having with the boys, or just random thoughts. No one really tweets their true feelings on social networks. If you react every time you read something and confront him with the issue its going to become annoying. A man loves a woman with confidence; one that isn’t worried about other females, one that knows he’s with me, and one that trust him to do right. A lot of females have done that with a male before and were hurt. But please use your past relationships as notes not an outline for your current one.