Average Day, Extraordinary People

It Hurts Like Hell

Oh baby
Oh oh babe
Oh oh oh oh oh
Oh baby

Love was always supposed to be
Something wonderful to me
To watch it grow inside yourself
To feel your heart beside itself

Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
(When you know you've given all you can)
Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
(You do your best but it's still much too sad)
Sometimes the pain is just too much, oh oh
And it hurts like hell, that's the way it feels

True love, it has no hiding place
It's not something you just put away
It's always there inside of you
Oh, and it shows in everything you do

Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
(When you know you've given it your best)
Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
(You feel a thousand miles from happiness)
Sometimes the pain is just too much, oh oh oh
And it hurts like hell, that's the way it feels

Oh oh, oh oh
Here we are, the two of us
So full of love, so little trust
But dying for some tenderness
Ohh, but too afraid to take the step

Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
(When you know what it can put you through)
Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
(There's nothing funny if it's killing you)
Sometimes the pain is just too much
And it hurts like hell, that's the way it feels

I know if there is any chance
For us to find our happiness
We've got to learn to let it go
Ohh, forget all the pain we know

Sometimes it hurts to love so bad
(Sometimes it hurts so bad, baby)
Sometimes it hurts to even laugh
(Sometimes it hurts to even laugh, oh)
And it hurts like hell, that's the way
Oh baby, that's the way it feels
Yeah, yeah, oh, yeah

Chalk Art

Julian Beever is an English chalk artist that creates trompe l'oiel (French deceive the eye) chalk art. It includes real imagery with optical illusion.

Bead Art

Found some beautiful and unique jewelry made with beads. If you interested in buying you can get the info from: http://beadartoriginals.blogspot.com/

Giving Back

When I was younger I use to look to people with success. I didn't look to people that didn't have what I wanted. Now that I'm older I remember the people that helped me realize that my dreams weren't extreme. I know from experience that is easy to give up when you think that no one understands your ambitions or trys' to support you. But the little things count. I was on www.globalgrind.com and I found this video from the Oprah Network. Jay-Z and Oprah decided to provide an all male school for kids that aren't privileged, laptop computers. This may not seem a lot to some people but to the students it could have been their motivation to continue to strive for their goals. No matter how successful I become I realize that I'm nothing if I don't give back and inspire others. Click on the link below to see the video:

http://globalgrind.com/channel/music/content/1902100/jayz-opens-oprahs-mind-to-rap-music-photos-x-video/

Boredom Leads to Still Moments:Pictures

Zebra's and Giraffe's

I saw these on http://www.globalgrind.com/ underneath Fashion and I thought it was really cute.

I was THINKING....

And I came up with THIS, how many of us smile just to get through? How many of us put a smile on because it is expected of us? Have we been trained that its better to smile then to show your real emotions? Or, have we been taught that smiling will make everything okay.

Wellllllllll, here's the philosphy of Elle (thats me),
We smile because we dont want people to think that were not fine. Even when were dying inside and wanting someone to ask us so bad whats wrong. It has become a natural instinct to act as if everything is ok than face the reality of everything is falling apart.

I have noticed that I do it alot. I will fake a smile in a minute. But if someone really looked pass my physical and looked into my eyes to see my heart and my deepest fears what would they think. So here's my vow to myself and a bet to you, smile a little harder, cry a little longer, pray with much faith and never pretend when life isnt going right.

Know Your Worth

I'm happy to say that I'm over the boy that came before the one I mentioned in my last blog. I was so wrapped up in him it made no sense. I knew it was wrong but I wanted to work it out. It consisted of 9 months of hoping that I could change his wants. I didn't realize to yesterday how much I was over him.  Being over him doesn't mean that I hate him and were not cool but its a feeling you get inside. You look back and realize your mistakes and realizing the decision you made to leave him was right. Its a big process but the outcome is so SWEET. Never stay in a relationship that you know isn't healthy because the outcome will never be what you want. Don't stay if you feel disrespected or unappreciated. Know that there is someone out there that is willing to treat you and make you their QUEEN.

                       I didn't think about this until I wrote Queen. Remember Coming to America!!

Use to Be

I saw my ex earlier today and I tried to avoid him and still see if he wanted my attention. Crazy right. But I try my hardest not to think about him and I always fail. I know that we aren't meant to be and I really don't want him as a boyfriend anymore. But my problem is I don't know if we could ever be friends without me getting caught up. I keep my space because our break up is still fresh in my mind.

He is crazy, silly and always knows how to make me laugh. I know that if I ever needed him he would be there for me. But it hurts that when I needed him the most we couldn't work it out. I have been told that I need to separate myself but its hard as hell when someone left an impact on your life. See the story goes like this. When I was at my lowest point he was there. When I felt like I was the ugliest person and I had no reason to smile he brought it all back. He helped me rebuild and he was patient through it all. He was the type of MAN that I could go to and talk about anything and he would tell me the truth.

So I'm stuck in this place trying to figure out if I want him in my life or if I should just leave him alone. See when you care about someone its kind of easy to slip back into what doesn't exist. But one thing I do know is that he will always have a place in my heart. He will always be my Cornelius. Its easier to be friends than being mad at him. How can you be mad at someone that help you through so much? My answer: You cant.

Moment For Life

This has to be one of my favorite Nicki Minaj's songs.

I truly believe that if you want something you have to think about it and see it everyday. I believe this theory helps you remember what you want out of life. Im a materialistic GIRL. Sad but true and one of my true wants in life is to own a Hardsided Louis Vuitton Luggage Set.

No Boys Allowed

Two of my favorite songs from Keri Hilson's new album No Boys Allowed

Toy Solider

Beautiful Mistake

The Breakfast Club one of the best movies ever.

Found this on someone's blog and I truly believe in what it says.

True Friends

From since I can remember I have always had a group of female friends 3 being the smallest and 5 being the highest. Throughout the friendships there was always at least two girls in the group that I knew had my back. Whenever something went wrong I could run to them and whenever I needed a true friend I could find it in them. Being in college you interact with a lot of people but very quickly you find out who is really in your corner. You find out the type of people you need in your life not saying people are more or less. But when you find that person that you click with, have the same ambitions, understand you better than you do at times you have found one of life's true treasures. I'm happy to say I have found two of life's treasures and I would do anything for my girls NaKee and Ja'Naye.

Lost but Found

I talked to one of my favorite girls today: my wife. No I'm not gay but she will be forever my better half. I came to her with some pressing issues about who I was becoming. Often when you get older you experience new things. You don't always make the right decisions but in each failure or success you are always left with a learning lesson. I noticed that I wasn't the same girl that came to college over a year ago and the change wasn't for the positive. I was becoming consumed with things that were irrelevant to my success. I was still holding on when others had already let go. I was praying for a happy ending when the happy ending should have been me and him splitting. I came to college with a mindset to succeed and find out who I was. Well I have never been a failure academically but it is very easy to get caught up. Sometimes its necessary for you to reevaluate and refocus on yourself for a while. In the process don't run away from you issues, approach each one with the mind set of being victorious. This is the first step to my "Finding Me" process.

Facebook/Twitter for the Ladies

It is so easy to discuss your feelings on social networks. Most of your friends follow you on twitter and are friends with you on facebook. When something goes wrong it is automatic for a female to want to post a status. But is there a limit to what you post? Everyday me and millions of others read statuses that we think are too much. Some people use social networks as diaries or venting machines. I have posted a few statuses that were about men or friends. It felt good to release some emotion and even better when people commented and understood my frustration. It isn’t always rational to post everything. For instance, I told my mister about his Christmas gift yesterday and he wasn’t hype to the level which I thought he should be. So instead of just letting it go, I posted a tweet about the issue and mentioned him as well. Some females would read this and ask where the problem is. But with matters of the heart it is best to only discuss them with your close friends. My mister was very mad and thought it was corny and immature. I thought about it and agreed. Facebook/Twitter shouldn’t be used to vent about your relationships or how some man has done you wrong. Although the facebook status ask “What are you thinking” the whole world doesn’t need to know. When us females post status about or relationships in a negative manor we only make the man mad and cause more problems. As you ladies WE must understand that everything doesn’t deserve a reaction. I know that it is hard because I’m still learning. Don’t give someone the benefit of knowing that they have made you so mad that you have to post it. Find another way to release your emotions without others knowing. For instance if you have a Blackberry or and smart phone there is a notepad. Instead of posting a status write how you feel and the good part is there is no character limit. This could be your diary, which only you know how you feel. We all say that we don’t want everyone to know all our business or we don’t want to give ourselves completely to a man but by posting statuses you are. Another thing that ladies do, we read to deep into statuses. I think social networks gives people the ability to be who they aren’t in real life. Many ladies that are in relationships clock their boyfriend’s statuses or tweets like an officer. I truly believe that if you’re a female that reads into everything or gets jealous quickly you need to unfollow your man and delete him as a friend. I say this because I have seen many relationships end because of social networks. A lot of times men write statuses that are lyrics to a song, a convo that they are having with the boys, or just random thoughts. No one really tweets their true feelings on social networks. If you react every time you read something and confront him with the issue its going to become annoying. A man loves a woman with confidence; one that isn’t worried about other females, one that knows he’s with me, and one that trust him to do right. A lot of females have done that with a male before and were hurt. But please use your past relationships as notes not an outline for your current one.